EDIT: Wooo! They Might Be Giants retweeted this!
I was relistening to Glean by They Might Be Giants this weekend. Like every TMBG album, it grows on you. I was listening to “All the Lazy Boyfriends”, a track I had mostly skipped over before, and paid attention to the lyrics. One part in particular grabbed me.
All the lazy boyfriends are preparing to change
They’re standing in the kitchen and preparing to change
All the lazy boyfriends are preparing to change
This American splendor spreads out before you
From basements to attics, garages to sheds
Who needs a vacation? Who needs a direction?
Who needs motivation when you live in your head?
While the song seems to be about lazy moochy boyfriends, They Might Be Giants are actually warning us about a common problem: over-preparing to change!
Lots of folks spent a bunch of time and money thinking about the perfect way to start. Sometimes it’s warranted, but usually it isn’t. You probably should spend a bunch of time thinking about expertise once you’re solidly an “actual beginner” stage, rather than “someone who thinks about it a lot.”
As Merlin has said, time and time again, there’s a tendency to research the best jogging shoes and buy a subscription to Runner’s World, when you should probably first going outside and jog regularly.
Living in your head is comfortable. In your head, it looks just like a featured Pinterest project, but in the real world, you may find out it isn’t quite as easy. In fact, the longer an idea lives in your head without touching the real world, the harder it is to manifest it, because the more you think about it, the grander and more wondrous it becomes. That gap between desire and reality gets bigger and bigger, and it can become paralyzing. Sure, it’s fun to think about things, but given the explicit choice, I would generally prefer to make something, rather than think about making it.
I still have this problem. My short-duration personal anti-savior for this is a person I met at a hackerspace who regularly discusses a project he’ll get to Real Soon Now that he started thinking about in the early 1980s.
So, fellow meatbags, stop preparing to change and start changing, and stop living in your head so much!